“Oh, it’s just me, myself and I
Solo ride until I die
Cause I got me for life”
Hey, I’m going to be straight up honest with you – we are all going to come across times in our lives when we hit rock bottom and feel alone. We’ll find ourselves asking questions that only we can answer. I don’t mean to accuse any of your friendships or relationships, but the truth is that not everyone can and will be with you every single minute.
Through all the stages of our life, we will meet many people, some incredible ones who will stick around for longer, and some who’ll leave earlier than expected. They’ll help us get through certain tough times in our lives, but their assistance will be finite. The mistake we make is we start to believe that we need them in order to survive life, live our life and face the challenges that life throws at us. When reality strikes, we begin to feel depressed, begin to think that we are all alone, and that we have got no one. Funny, isn’t it? We fail to see the most important person we have and always will-OURSELVES! After all, we’re all riding solo.
Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to be there for yourself.
Anyone who refuses to help you is teaching you that you have got to help yourself.
Anyone who puts you down is teaching you how to pick yourself up.
Anyone who has power over your happiness is teaching you how to take the power back into your own hands.
Life will introduce us to people who intentionally or unintentionally make us feel bad about ourselves, who make us want to change ourselves. We spend so much time and effort trying to be pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough, “cool” enough, trying to meet all the definitions of ourselves that have been crafted by others. We spend so much time trying to be someone else that we forget who we truly are.
But hey, you know what? It doesn’t matter who thinks what about you. It doesn’t matter who wants you to be different. It doesn’t matter who is happy the way you are and who isn’t. We will never be able to control who is going to like us, support us, abandon us, treat us nicely, hurt us, love us, hate us; but we can control what we feel about ourselves. We can control how we are going to let others’ opinions affect us.
The only thing that matters is whether you are happy with yourself. You are all you have got and you are all you are going to need. In times when you feel alone, be there for yourself, pick yourself back up, dust the dirt off and start walking again. Opt to depend on yourself, love yourself, forgive yourself, and treat yourself kindly because at the end, you’re the only one who is going to be with you from your very first breath to your very last one!